The worst thing you can hear from your partner is that there’s someone else, but the second worst thing you can hear form your partner is “Do you want to open up our relationship?” This is a relatively innocuous question, because it suggests that they still love you, but it still suggests they love somebody else more.
My standard lolbert response is “No it should not be forbidden but it’s probably not a very successful model (for human behaviour).”
Works well in most cases. For polyamory specifically I have some doubts (but this is probably my inner cultural conservative speaking), and while Aella’s work is interesting I’m not sure how generalizable it is.
There is an interesting tension between “this goes against human nature and so it should not be done” and the naturalistic fallacy. Lots of coordination problems arise because of human nature but this doesn’t discount coordination, and of course many natural impulses go against basic market sense.
Will have to think about it some more in this case. There’s also a cost benefit for society to consider.
My standard lolbert response is “No it should not be forbidden but it’s probably not a very successful model (for human behaviour).”
Works well in most cases. For polyamory specifically I have some doubts (but this is probably my inner cultural conservative speaking), and while Aella’s work is interesting I’m not sure how generalizable it is.
There is an interesting tension between “this goes against human nature and so it should not be done” and the naturalistic fallacy. Lots of coordination problems arise because of human nature but this doesn’t discount coordination, and of course many natural impulses go against basic market sense.
Will have to think about it some more in this case. There’s also a cost benefit for society to consider.